Living Our Best Lives

I am back from my month long “blogcation.” I really needed to take the month of August to have a reset. It has been a bumpy summer. It started with Mr. U and I both getting COVID. Then there were a lot of projects that I didn’t particularly enjoy or want to do, fulfilling responsibilities, and some health scares. By the of end of July my bike was gathering dust in the garage, I only had my kayak on the water a handful of times, and we still had not unwinterized our camper. Suffice it to say… I was not living my best retirement life. And lingering in the back of my mind was that nagging question… how many more summers do I have left? I can’t afford to miss even one. Do you ever worry about that, or is it just me?

I decided I needed to salvage what little bit of summer I had left. It was time to make a point of living my best life, right now, despite the challenges. My best retirement life is not expensive or glamorous. Aside from some travel, it is pretty simple really. In the summer, my best retirement life is:

  • going out to the garden to pick fresh vegetables and herbs for dinner or a colorful bouquet of flowers to liven up the kitchen counter.
  • a leisurely afternoon kayaking with a friend.
  • a picnic dinner out on the boat watching the eagles soar.
  • taking the four wheelers into the mountains to pick huckleberries.
  • dining al fresco… bonus if it is by the water.
  • that first steaming cup of coffee in the morning when you are camping.
  • late morning bike rides armed with a pack lunch and journal.
  • a lingering afternoon on the water with my family, followed by the smell of the B.B.Q. being fired up.
  • feeling the unfettered joy of being with my grands.
  • laughter gathered around the fire pit.
  • quiet conversations as the sun sets behind the mountain on another summer day.

It was the end of July, and I was starting to feel like a caged animal that had not been outdoors enough – pacing and anxious to feel the sun on my shoulders and the gentle ripple of water under my paddle. So, to kick off taking my summer back, a friend and I loaded up the kayaks and headed to the river for an afternoon on the water. It was just what my soul needed. Towards the end of the afternoon as the sun was getting low, we tucked our kayaks into the reeds away from the waves of passing boats and poured a glass of chilled white wine. A ski boat drifted by and one of the beautiful young ladies waved at us and yelled, “I want to be like you two someday!” And at that moment, I realized, this is it. I am living my best life. I just needed to pull back and carve out some time for it.

During my “blogcation” I cut down on social media and screen time. I spent mornings with a cup of coffee reflecting. How did I get away from living my best life and how do I make sure that I don’t let the weightier things in life keep me from finding the joy and beauty in every single day? How do I peacefully blend the responsibilities of life with enough time and energy for play? I had to rethink my priorities and what I wanted my life to look like. And while the blog break was nice, I also missed writing.

I pondered how/if writing my blog fit into my best life. What I noticed was that when I did not blog, I spent a lot more time writing in my journal. I guess some people just need to spill their thoughts on to a page. I concluded that writing and taking photos for this blog are part of my best retirement life right now. The challenge was the commitment to post every Monday. I have tried to stay consistent with that, because that is what the social media gurus tell you to do. However, the intent of this blog was never to make me rich or famous, so what do I care about blog rules? Heck, I can post when the muse hits and not post when I am having a super busy week. The shake down is that you may find my blog posts a little less consistent. They may be less or even more than once a week and they may not always show up on Mondays. They may include short blurbs or long rants. I hope that you will stick with me through it and if you want to be notified via email when a post comes out, please sign up for my newsletter.

How peculiar that, even in retirement, we can get so bogged down with the worries and responsibilities of life, that we forget to live our best life. As the old saying goes, “if not now, when?” What does your best life look like and are you making the time and effort to live it, or are you just drifting by?

Sunsets are a vital part of my best life.

12 comments on “Living Our Best Lives

    1. Hi Lori – Thank you for helping me live my best life! Now we just need to take time to do it more.

  1. What does my best retirement life look like? Not unlike yours, many simple things – that first cup of coffee in the morning with nothing pressing on the agenda; meal planning; cookie making; watering plants & seeing what’s ripe in the garden; connecting with friends either on the phone or IRL; a good book; journaling; a walk in nature. I really enjoy your writing.

  2. Hi Mona – Your best life sounds wonderful! I especially appreciate the tag of morning coffee ā€œwith nothing pressing on the agendaā€ – that’s the best. Life is good.

    1. Hi Janis –
      It is all too easy for me to get wrapped up in life and forget to enjoy it. Retirement is a gift and you are so right – how we enjoy the gift is different for each of us.

  3. Reflection is good for the soul! Like you, I finally broke my (self-imposed) weekly writing deadline a few years ago. For the first 6 years of my blog, I published a post every single Tuesday. Now, I write when I feel like writing. It takes a while to adjust, but I’ve never regretted making the move. If you’re interested in reading my “announcement to the world” that I was discontinuing my weekly articles, I’ve attached the link below. We’re kindred spirits…https://www.theretirementmanifesto.com/the-pebble-and-the-pond/

    1. Hi Fritz –

      I am sure I have read your post, because I have read ALL of them at some point. However, reading it again when I am experiencing similar thoughts was refreshing. Thank you for sending the link. I have dropped very few pebbles in the pond with my small blog, but I enjoy the few ripples they produce. Thanks for the encouragement to continue at my own pace, and the rest will take care of itself. (BTW – this ripple in your pond wishes you still posted every week😁.)

    1. Hi Sue –
      I typically write things I need to hear myself. I just wish I didn’t have to keep learning this lesson over and over again. šŸ™‚

  4. It is those simple things that are the best!
    I totally agree with you, we constantly need to be aware of balancing things out to be sure we are nourishing our inner soul. That is of course is the best thing for ourselves, but also for the people around us.
    Reading your post is part of my best lifeā£ļø

    1. Hi Janie –
      I totally agree with you. We can’t give to others when our own cup is empty. Thanks so much for including my post in part of your best life.

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